One Last Word.

Be Not Deceived

It is hyper-exciting, the feeling of finally wishing away this 2017 year of many failed choices and bad decisions. With hopes,  we look forward to a year of positive change, things working out good for us the way we expect and would love, come 2018.

All these energy of starting everything right on a good note in the new year, give most of us, more than enough pressure to stick to an absolute self-attainable goals, and so we look to having things working out for our good, through other shortcut sort of ways.

A wonderful granny I used to know once said there is nothing like shortcuts to life, except you do not want to live to see your own tomorrow, where younger ones from the neighborhood would come to you for pieces of advice on how you were able to live your life in so much peace that has obviously eluded them today.

There are a handful of younger ones out there who are in denial of some sort of attention they crave from other people on whom they have excessively relied for happiness. The outcomes of such expectation have broken many of these individuals that they tend to lose confidence in themselves and tend to doubt the capabilities of their own abilities.

One thing I know never to give up on is the trust in oneself. The reason for this may differ from one person to the other as we all possess different aura around our spirit-form, something naturally alternating with a measure of the degree to which one trusts him or herself.

The level of confidence one has in him or herself determines the strength of the aura built just about your spirit; and the stronger the aura the mightier the aura to ward off all spirit-forms of negativity. I could be speaking of something new, even to myself, but I am trying to bring us all down to a level where we make a choice to start depending on and trusting in ourselves again.

I often feel like all my children will be girls because I have this crazy passion of always giving a piece of advice to at least one girl, lady or woman out there who suffers some sort of disappointment after investing all her time, energy, focus and confidence in some other people for her own happiness. That is nothing but a gamble with less than a likely probability of ever getting an outcome that will not be negative...if ever there is something like that in the arithmetic world.

I never had the opportunity to study the subject myself, as I was jumped to the other class just when it was time for our class to be taught basic calculations. The reason was never explained to me until after I managed to finish basic school, only to find out that the teacher who jumped me got herself transferred to another town. Silly, huh? Anyways.

The moral of the story is never to put your money on other people, no matter who you think they are to you in this existence we call life, because those who get to win in such games of trusting others are the ones focused on getting through to therapy sessions, with a commitment to never skip an appointment; a way for rebuilding all that they helped ruined with their own hands. I am sure no single individual of us wants to drag ourselves to that edge only to wish that we had taken serious point from what this blog post is trying to put across.

I am no expert or professional, I never read psychology to know what the average human behavior entails but one thing I am certain of is that the only person who can do things the right type of way for you is you. Even when you get to lose or fail at first try, you learn to do better by first re-strategising and placing your priorities carefully then next time you try. You only get to win if, and when, you built on the trust between you and your capabilities, strengthening yourself to reach higher heights and do better than yourself.

I read somewhere a young girl was saying that all she expects in the new year is to have her next (boyfriend) to give her all the attention she deserves and be able to put up with her attitude because she knows she has an attitude problem, which she is working hard on overcoming. It was very sincere of her to put that out on social media but obviously she got that out due to what she must have suffered in her past relationships and commitments, whichever one it must have been. This is what I had to tell her:

One question tho: How much attention do you give yourself on any given day? If you can't answer that, then I'm afraid there is no use getting yourself deceived by the hopes of having someone give you the attention you are not capable of giving yourself by yourself. Just my opinion tho. Bless.

It could sound mean, direct and personal but at times you have to deliver the truth the way it is without adding anything fairy swirly, especially if you intend to heal the person mind, spirit, body and soul. Ask any medical practitioner how injections are done and if any of it has ever been sweet.

The reason is that for it to actually work, you gotta feel the pain. It is about time our girls out there, vulnerable and confused, mostly, received timely intervention from those who have gone through the system of making such mistakes, thereby bringing them home to a conscious mind of their own and facing life for what it actually is, without the fear of hurting their feelings.

It would be better we hurt their feelings now, so they learn to have a life they can enjoy much later in life than making them laugh now and have to spend rest of their lives in misery of regret, for wrong choices made. The problem we face as a thriving nation of human problems is our willingness and ability to tell people the truth.

Most people, 99.99% percent of us, would tell you outright that they want nothing but the truth, but have never actually prepared their minds and their conscience of living up to the truth and realities of life. Everybody wants to live good, have a nice care-free life without any troubles that, anything that seems to threaten any of such expectations, gets to break them and you become their enemies for life.

I will say just do it and one day they will look for you to say thank you for being so bold to tell me exactly what I NEEDED to hear and not what people I call family and trusted friends always WANTED me to hear. The moment someone approaches you this way, know that already they are aware that you have already forgiven them and that you expect nothing else from them than their own acceptance of what lies ahead of them. That is what life should be all about, and which should be simple with no further explanations.

Before we pull down the curtains on this year, (which has already been in a rush to GTFOH anyways), I want to wish you all the best of everything good that you wish for yourselves in the NEW YEAR. May you possess double portion of all goals you set for yourselves and may we all stay healthy and happy when we wake up on the other side of 2018.

Have a PROSPEROUS FRUITFUL NEW YEAR AND BEYOND.

BLESS.